Ron Sparks Author, Poet

Update on My Mother

Mom and Dad in Hawaii
Mom and Dad in Hawaii

It’s been a month since Mom went into the hospital.  I wrote a blog many of you enjoyed – describing her plight and why this dangerous surgery was necessary.   Since then, the ubiquitous Facebook updates I was posting have slowed down, but Mom’s care has been a constant roller coaster of good days and bad days.

Many of you have reached out to me, my father, sister, brother, and uncle for status updates.  Others of you have offered support, prayers, and well-wishes for her speedy recovery.  Thank you all for caring so much about my mom.

The last month has been, as I said above, a roller coaster of ups and downs.  I’ll take a few moments and give you the high level history and current situation.  I’m going to keep it very dispassionate, though – this blog isn’t about the roller coaster of emotions the entire family has been through – it’s just a status update.  You can imagine the emotional strain this has put on the entire family and this isn’t the forum to share those emotions with you.

After her original surgery, Mom went right to ICU for recovery.  The surgeon removed most of her colon and attached it directly to the rectum, made room in her body cavity, and completely and 100% closed mom up.

We were so excited when we saw her that evening in ICU.  She had such a flat belly and, once recovered she would have easily been as flat as she is in the picture above.

Unfortunately that wasn’t how she ended up.  The pressure inside her body cavity was too great.  Her body cavity was too small to hold everything because her liver is enlarged and her body cavity had shrunk in the past 8 years.  Her kidneys couldn’t function and the surgeon was forced to go back in three days later and “open her up” to relieve the pressure.

Opening her up immediately relieved the pressure and her kidneys began to function again.  She was still 5 times smaller in the belly than she had been before the surgery and she still looked great.  We were very happy.

A series of synthetic mesh and skin grafts were placed over her abdomen to close her up.  A “vac” was put on her abdomen to, through pressure, close her remaining open hole and force the healing process to proceed.

While that was happening, mom had some issues with her blood pressure and respiration.  It took a week or so for the doctors to find the perfect mix of medicines to stabilize her blood pressure.  Mom was sedated most of this time.

Finally, Mom started waking up.  She was hallucinating a lot.  She was in terrible pain.  The doctors had removed the breathing tube and she was breathing on her own.  Because she was breathing on her own they could only provide so much pain relief –  too much pain management would force them to put her back on the breathing tube; she would be too sedated to breathe properly on her own.

So Mom battled the pain, and it was unlike any pain she had ever had.  She was brave, she endured, but her pain was so intense that often she slipped into hallucinations.

But she was getting better!  The physical therapists were coming in daily to help her move on her own.  They got her out of the bed and into a chair for a couple of days.  They started feeding her again – she was drinking nutrient shakes and ice chips and drinking water.  Her bowels were working.  She was talking, making phone calls.  She was so so very weak and the pain consumed her, but in her better moments she was lucid and able to interact with us all.

It looked like mom was well and truly on the road to recovery.

And then the worst happened.  The pressure from the “vac” was so great that it pulled her intestines into the mesh and caused them to rip – creating a small fistula which put stool and bile into her body cavity.

She got an infection.  Her breathing started suffering.  The surgeon quickly removed the vac, cleaned her up, and put her on heavy duty antibiotics to combat what looked to be an onset of sepsis.  Yes, if you read the original blog, this is VERY familiar to you.

Fortunately the infection was caught early and handled effectively.  Her breathing, however, did not get any better.  The issue is the fact that she has to clear the congestion from her airways and lungs.  In order to clear the congestion,she needs to cough.

You try to cough without using your abdominal muscles.  You can’t; it’s impossible.  And therein lies the problem.  Mom has been on her back for so long, with no ability to clear her airways or lungs, that she is very congested and at high risk for pneumonia right now.

If mom gets pneumonia, there is a very real chance that she won’t have the strength to fight it.  That leads us to today.  Today, the surgeons decided that the only way to avoid pneumonia is to insert a tracheotomy tube into mom.  With a trach, they can clear her airways and remove the congestion.

So, mom has had the breathing tube put back in again – they need it for the small surgery to insert the tracheotomy tube.  As soon as the surgeon is ready this afternoon they will perform the procedure to insert the tube.

The tube is the only thing that will enable her to breathe easily and avoid further complications.

How long will mom be in the hospital?  We don’t really know – but it’s a good guess that she’ll be here at LEAST another month and probably more.  I’ll be surprised if she is home by Thanksgiving.

She’s going strong.  She’s a fighter and she is the strongest woman I have ever known.  I know you are all worried about her; I am too.  Take heart in knowing that she is getting the best medical care she can possibly get, that she wanted to do this, and that she stronger than anyone ever suspected.  That’s all I’ll say about that – this is not supposed to be an emotional blog.

I’ll continue to blog and post updates on Facebook.  Thanks, everyone, for the well-wishes and prayers.

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Ron Sparks

Ron Sparks is a technology professional, science fiction and fantasy author and poet living in Zurich, Switzerland. His latest book "ONI: Satellite Earth Series Book 1" is available on

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  • my prayers and wishes for Charlene to get on her feet and home soon. I sure miss chatting with her, she gives great addvice when you need it from someone other than someone close to you. I sure did get some good ones right before she went in. Can’t wait to tell her what happened and how I handled it. She will be so proud of me I just know that.
    Give her my hugs and kisses, and tell her I love her.

  • My prayers keep coming for Charlene to heal and to give the family support. She is a wonderful lady, and is strong enough to pull through the obsticales she faces. Let me know if there is anything you need for me to help with the family.

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Ron Sparks

Ron Sparks is a technology professional, science fiction and fantasy author and poet living in Zurich, Switzerland. His latest book "ONI: Satellite Earth Series Book 1" is available on


A man of many passions, I lay claim to a myriad of interests and hobbies. Among them, I am an amateur astronomer, an avid motorcycle rider, a whiskey aficionado, a (poor) surfer, a scuba diver, a martial artist, a student of philosophy, a proponent of critical thinking, a technologist, an entrepreneur, a cancer survivor, and I harbor a lifelong love of science fiction and fantasy. Feel free to strike up a conversation on the social networks below.

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